Moving On

When I started college I wanted to be a music teacher. I took hours and hours of music classes, music theory, music appreciation, music history, voice lessons, piano lessons...I really wanted to be a musician. I sang in the church choir, even sang solos. I remember one music theory class as if it happened yesterday. We were going through rhythms. I just couldn't get it! The professor finally looked at me and said, "Diana, by now these rhythms should be cliche!" But, alas, I have no rhythm. I can't even sing and clap at the same time. I'm a great singer when I can sing with recorded music and I memorize the timing, but put me with pianist and I'm lost.

I was not meant to be a musician. So, was all the training that I went through a waste? My identity was wrapped up in my dream of being a music teacher, but now what?

I don't believe that there is any waste in God's economy. He uses all of our experiences to build our future. My ability to get up and sing in front of an audience has made it easy for me to transition into public speaking. I use music when I take clients through stress management exercises. In order to become a music teacher I had to take a general psychology class...and through that class I found my career.

"The key to being able to move on is taking the good with you. Take stock of what you can carry forth with you into a new situation - those qualities, skills, and lessons that will serve you indefinitely. What you cannot carry forth with you was just the package those qualities came in. Say goodbye to the package - the clothes, the status, the opinion others have of you, the perks, the bells and whistles, the people that are only there because of the trappings.

You may have formed a whole identity around that package, so you must separate it from the gifts that are inside it. Those are transferable and permanent. The package will always be dispensable. We mistakenly give too much power to the package." Now What? Laura Berman Fortang

Attitude

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company ... a church ... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude ... I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you ... we are in charge of our Attitudes." Chuck Swindoll

Tips for Positive Thinking

Attitude is your choice - think positive!

• Think about life as an adventure filled with exciting unknowns.
• Look for the best in every situation, even the crises in life. There is an opportunity in every crisis.
• Decide what you want in life and stay true to your values and beliefs.
• Avoid using 'quick fixes' as solutions to problems.
• Know your strengths and remind yourself of them every day.
• Learn from your mistakes.
• Learn to communicate with assertiveness. If you don’t say how you feel you may end up feeling resentful because you are going along with things you really don’t want for your life.
• Always try to speak the truth (in love). EPH 4:14 Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. 15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
• Change your negative self-talk. Learn to see your weaknesses as limitations rather than flaws.
• Help someone out. The simple act of helping others helps us to feel good. My father used to call the “old ladies” in his church to check on them when he was almost 80, diabetic and legally blind. “Helping” them gave him a purpose and made him feel needed.
• Reconnect with friends.

Managing Stress

Now that you know how stressed out you are…

how do you manage your stress levels?

Here are some stress management techniques that will help!

• Remove yourself from the stressful situation – even if you can only take a 5 minute break, you will feel better about the situation when you return.
• Change the way you see things – most of the things we worry about don’t really happen. Our perceptions, whether accurate or not, cause stress.
• Do something for someone else – getting outside of our heads and helping others lowers our stress level by taking the focus off of our problems.
• Learn to say NO – sometimes we stress ourselves out with other people’s problems or causes. Don’t take on any new project just because you feel like you have to.
• Breathe Deeply – Your breath is the connection between your mind and your body. If you can focus on breathing deeply, it will help slow down the racing thoughts and help you relax.
• Hold your breath when you’re angry – it takes oxygen to fuel anger. Hold your breath for 10 seconds before you respond when you feel angry.
• Exercise – Do something you enjoy, like walking, swimming, bicycling, or jogging. Make sure you check with your doctor before starting any exercise program.
• Don’t self-medicate – don’t use smoking, drinking, drugs or even overeating to cope with stress.
• Eat Healthy – Good nutrition and healthy eating habits can help you through stressful times. Eating well increases your physical, mental and emotional stamina. It also helps build your immune system which keeps you healthy!
• Get Enough Sleep - Most people need 7-8 hours of sleep. If we don’t get enough sleep, everything from our immune system to our ability to learn and remember information will be negatively affected.
• Laugh -Laughter releases "feel good" endorphins.

Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Stress Self Test

Take this test to see if you are experiencing any symptoms of stress. Give yourself one point for each symptom.

Physical symptoms
• tightness in chest
• chest pain and/or palpitations
• indigestion
• breathlessness
• nausea
• muscle twitches
• aches and pains
• headaches
• skin conditions
• recurrence of previous illnesses/ allergies
• constipation/ diarrhea
• weight loss or weight gain
• change in menstrual cycle for women
• sleep problems/tiredness

Behavioral symptoms
• work performance issues
• inclination to be accident prone
• drinking and smoking more
• overeating/ loss of appetite
• change in sleeping patterns
• poor time management
• too busy to relax
• withdrawing from family and friends
• loss of interest in sex
• poor judgment
• inability to express feelings
• over-reacting

Emotional symptoms
• mood swings
• feeling anxious
• feeling tense
• feelings of anger
• feeling guilty
• feelings of shame
• having no enthusiasm
• becoming more cynical
• feeling out of control
• feeling helpless
• decrease in confidence/self-esteem
• poor concentration

Psychological symptoms and negative thoughts
• ‘I am a failure’
• ‘I should be able to cope’
• ‘no one understands’
• ‘I don’t know what to do’
• ‘I can’t cope’
• ‘What’s the point?’
• ‘I don’t seem to be able to get on top of things’
• ‘I keep forgetting where I put things’
• loss of judgment

Stress Self Test
Add up your score to check how stressed you are.

0 – 4 symptoms: You are unlikely to be stressed.
5 – 8 symptoms: You are experiencing a mild form of stress and are not coping as well as you can. You need to make some changes.
9 – 12 symptoms: You are experiencing a moderate degree of stress. You need to make major changes to your life.
13 or more symptoms: You need to take urgent action to reduce your stress levels. The higher your score the more urgent is the need for action.

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Servant of the Lord

1 After the death of Moses the Lord’s servant, the Lord spoke to Joshua son of Nun, Moses’ assistant. He said, 2 “Now that my servant Moses is dead, you must lead my people across the Jordan River into the land I am giving them. 3 I promise you what I promised Moses: ‘Everywhere you go, you will be on land I have given you— 4 from the Negev Desert in the south to the Lebanon mountains in the north, from the Euphrates River on the east to the Mediterranean Sea on the west, and all the land of the Hittites.’ 5 No one will be able to stand their ground against you as long as you live. For I will be with you as I was with Moses. I will not fail you or abandon you. 6 “Be strong and courageous, for you will lead my people to possess all the land I swore to give their ancestors. 7 Be strong and very courageous. Obey all the laws Moses gave you. Do not turn away from them, and you will be successful in everything you do. 8 Study this Book of the Law continually. Meditate on it day and night so you may be sure to obey all that is written in it. Only then will you succeed. 9 I command you—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:1-9 NLT

"Joshua's new assignment was a natural outflow of what God had already been doing in his life. God did not begin working in Joshua's life once he became a leader. Rather, Joshua became the leader because God had already been working in his life. Your relationship with God is far more important than any position. Those who hold a position of spiritual leadership without experiencing the active working of the Holy Spirit are courting humiliating failure." Called to Be a Leader - Blackaby

At the beginning of Joshua, Moses is described as “the servant of the Lord,” and Joshua as his “assistant”. At its end, Joshua was granted the same title as his mentor: “the servant of the Lord”. Sometimes we think that being an "assistant" is beneath us, but in reality it could be God's training ground for the future. I always tell my clients that there is no waste in God's economy. He uses all of our experiences, good and bad, for our good...if we let Him. So, do you find yourself in a situation where you feel that you are being taken advantage of...is someone leading you through the desert for years on end? It could be that God is preparing you for something great. God has promised to go with us...so don't be afraid of what comes next.

Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go." NIV

Discipline

I was at a friend's house last week and she checked out this blog. She had a strong reaction to my blog on May 28th, Get Moving! She told me that most of the world is moving too fast already and they need to slow down. I know that she is right about most of society, but for me, the call to get moving is important. Since I am only working part time and my personality type is one that would rather take a nap than do anything else, I need to motivate myself to move. I find myself watching decorating shows, checking my e-mail, and not really accomplishing much. So, this week I went out and bought a speaker for my ipod. How does that help me get moving you ask? When I should be reading I put on some instrumental music. When I should be cleaning the house I put on some oldies like Helen Reddy's I Am Woman. When I need to get organized I put on some praise music. I have accomplished more in the last two days than I have in weeks. Now I need some music that will make me feel like exercising. Any suggestions?

Self Discipline = "The ability to make yourself do what you should, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not." Elbert Hubbard

Stress Management

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “how heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers ranged from 10 ounces to 30 ounces.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.”

I Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.