Thursday, August 16, 2007

Grandparenting Tips

According to Hallmark.com:
• About 70 million grandparents live in the United States, according to estimates, and that number will continue to grow as baby boomers age.
• About 67 percent of Americans aged 45 and older are grandparents.
• The average age of first-time grandparents is about 48.

As a grandparent I have (hopefully) learned some tips for maintaining a successful relationship with the parents of my grandchildren.

1. Don't confuse your role. You are NOT the parent. You may need to say that to yourself over and over again if your adult children are not parenting the way you would!

2. Don't criticize your children's parenting. They will learn soon enough (the hard way...just like you learned) what works and what doesn't.

3. Don't contradict the parent's rules. You may not think it is a big deal to let the kids jump on your beds, but if your kids say they don't allow your grandchildren to jump on the beds...go back to rule #1...you are NOT the parent!

4. Don't interfere with your grandchildren's discipline...even if it breaks your heart.

5. When your adult children ask you not to do something (like giving candy before dinner), don't get upset. You already knew they wouldn't like it!

6. Don't give advice unless you are asked. Unsolicited advice is usually unwanted advice.

7. Don't assume that the way you used to parent is the best way. Times have changed...so don't say, "Well, in my day..."

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toddler said...

I love your grandparent tips. I have my mum visiting this week and I am going to give her your tips! Thanks

Diana said...

Thanks! I hope they help!

The Small Scribbler said...

I love these tips too. I've been parenting for long enough to see things from this side of the fence. (Though I'm definitely a few years away from grandparenting.)

Kate